- They are tired (and so are their parents). So very tired. All the time. They go go go and then crash. They are very very tired, yet they don’t want to sleep at the times their parents want them to sleep.
- They are busy, busy, busy. They are so busy that they are being pulled in multiple directions. They feel that they have to do everything, now. Toddlers: You are walking, running, hopping, forming words, playing, and thinking. There are so many new things to figure out. Juniors: You are juggling sports, homework, volunteer work, time with friends, clubs and organizations, and so much more. There is not enough time in the day for you!
- They want to try new things. They are discovering that this is the time in their life to try something new and take a risk. Toddlers: You may be attempting to climb out of your crib or seeing what happens when you rip off your diaper. Juniors: You may be figuring out whether you want to take a gap year and travel to Africa or head straight to college to study engineering - you all want to try something new.
- They are starting to figure out what they like and what they don’t like. Their tastes, values, and goals are developing. Toddlers: You are slowly figuring out the difference between broccoli and chicken nuggets. Juniors: You are deciding whether you want to go to college in a city or rural area or a small school or a big school (and many other things!).
- They aren’t sure how far away they want to get from their parents. There is still a lot of uncertainty about what it means to spread their wings and fly from the nest. Toddlers: You are thinking about how quickly you can drop your parent’s hand and run toward the parking lot. Those glances over the shoulder to make sure a parent is still behind you are still frequent but becoming more fleeting. Juniors: You may be thinking about which coast you want to be on. Do you want to be within a 10 mile radius of home or as far away as possible?
- They are easily attracted to (and distracted by) bright, shiny things. There are a lot of temptations out there in the world. Toddlers: You may think there is nothing more attractive than your parent’s cell phone screen or the flashy singing toy specifically designed to annoy said parent but there is much more out there to explore. Juniors: You may be easily attracted to the college with the best dorm room or swimming pool. Look deeper. What about the academic program you are interested in? How does advising work? Don’t let the bright shiny things steal your attention from the more important things.
- They want to push limits. When you tell them “no” it will likely make them want to continue to test the boundaries. Toddlers: You may be thinking about how you can climb up on the bookshelf (or counter, table, staircase, dog, etc) Will anyone notice? What if you throw your sippy cup (or plate, bowl, spoon, etc.) on the floor again? What will happen? Juniors: You may be thinking about pushing your own admission limits. How many schools can you apply to? How many of those will be “reach schools”? What are your reach schools? What can your family afford?
- They care what others think: They are still heavily influenced by the important people in their life. Friends, family, teachers, coaches, etc. Toddlers: You are constantly looking for approval. Will you get a sticker if you go potty? Will your mom hug you if you fall? Juniors: You may be concerned with where your friends in high school are looking at college and what people will think if you go to a college many have never heard of before. Where do you want to go? Where is the best fit?
- People are constantly testing them. Our culture is overrun with testing. Toddlers: You are being tested continuously by those around you. What is your name? Can you say “Mama”? Where is the apple? Can you twirl, sit, stand, roll, touch your nose, pat your tummy, or do the Hokey Pokey? Juniors: You are being consumed with standardized tests. The PSAT. SAT, ACT, AP, Subject Tests, mid term exams, final exams, and more. Will these ever stop?? They will. Someday.
- They are learning to ask for help. This is one of life’s biggest lessons to learn. Find people you trust and lean on them for support when you need. Toddlers: You are learning that if you bang loudly enough on the floor and scream “NO” at the top of your lungs, someone will come for you (after they have taken a deep breath and counted to five). Juniors: You are thinking about all of the decisions ahead. You know you have family, your high school counselor, friends, teachers, coaches, mentors and many more people surrounding you who are willing to help. You are learning to ask for help when you need it. Don’t be afraid to do so. (p.s. Climb to College would love to help you with your college search, wink wink.)
As the parent of a 17 month old, and an independent college counselor, I find myself spending a lot of time with toddlers and juniors in high school. Between playgroups and story time, college planning meetings and campus visit discussions, I have started to notice a lot of similarities between these two populations. Enjoy!
With our first baby on the way, one would think that my only thoughts would be consumed with swaddling and strollers, car seats and cribs. However, as an educational consultant my brain has also been swimming with thoughts of college admissions. Disturbing, yes? Far too early? Probably. However, let me explain my 37-week pregnant train of thought.
Whether attempting to figure out how I can magically convince the Common Application to delay their 2014 launch until September, when I might feel ready to meet with my students again after giving birth, or determining how I will be able navigate my annual journey to the NACAC conference with a two month old baby in tow, I find it is hard not to think about college admissions right now. The juniors I am working with are clamoring for college visits tips and my seniors are seeking essay topic brainstorming sessions. The college admissions world has played an active role in my life for the past nine years and I apologize to my daughter in advance, it will be part of her life as well.
I have watched plenty of parents push their children toward fulfilling their own college dreams, pressure and persuasion launching their students into directions that may not be the path they should or need to take. While some may have quickly dismissed this article based on the title, figuring it yet another pushy parent starting the college journey far too early, may I counter and instead say that I hope to offer some general educational advice (yes, much of it related to college planning) for all of those soon to be born babies, including my own, that I hope will actually be helpful and realistic.
While I fully agree that it is far too early to talk standardized tests and college lists, I do believe there are some early educational lessons that can be learned and passed along to my baby girl to help her prepare for the crazy college admissions journey she will likely face 17 years from now. While it is hard to predict how the process may change before she is even in high school, I hope that she carries these valuable lessons with her.
Dearest Baby Ray:
We are so excited to welcome you into this world in a matter of days. While we may not have a name picked out quite yet, your nursery is decorated, your clothes are washed, toys sanitized and we are anxiously awaiting your arrival!
As I plan to do mostly online Skype/Facetime appointments during your first few weeks on earth you will likely be spending a lot of time next to my desk while I help students prepare for their college admissions process. Helping them identify colleges that might be a good fit, practicing for interviews, brainstorming essay topics, developing resumes, etc. While you may soak in some of that college admissions knowledge while napping in your bassinet, here are a few additional pieces of advice for your own educational and college admissions journey.
Form good relationships with your teachers. While it may be way too early to think about letters of recommendation, it is not too early to think about how you treat and interact with your teachers. Whether you are in preschool or a junior in high school, your teachers are important so treat them as such. They are not only educators but often mentors as well. Your teachers will play a significant role in your life. Be kind to them. Ask lots of questions. Listen to them and of course learn from them.
Find and develop deep interests. Yes, college admissions books will tell you that you need to show depth and passion and have that “x factor.” You may find all of these things along the way but I truly just want you to explore your interests. Try it all. Music, art, sports (ok, mom and dad may or may not have already argued about whether you will be a hockey player or figure skater) dance, theater, debate, student government, writing, travel, etc. Wherever your dreams take you, explore them. Find what it is that you love. Don’t worry about doing it for someone else or for a piece of paper you will send off to be judged, do it for yourself.
Read and read a lot. In between 2 a.m. readings of Good Night Moon and afternoon adventures with Brown Bear Brown Bear, I hope to instill a love of reading in you. I myself have always been an avid reader and I can assure you that many trips to the library are in store for you. Truly, I don’t care what it is that you read. Be it fiction, scifi, adventure, mystery, nonfiction, magazines, or blogs, choose what you wish. Just read and read voraciously. The more you read the more you will expand your world. You will be better equipped for discussions with those around you as a result, begin to thoughtfully form opinions on issues, and open your imagination. And yes, perhaps expand that vocabulary for standardized tests (sorry, I couldn’t resist).
Try on lots of different hats. Over the next few years I am sure your dad and I will help you play dress up with a wide range of costumes from doctor to princess. Don’t worry if you don’t know what you want to be when you grow up. Even when you are a “grown up.” Keep in mind that you will change your direction, probably multiple times. Don’t believe those that tell you that you have to choose a major before you enter college or that your major will determine your career. Follow academic pursuits that intrigue you, test out opportunities through volunteering and internships, and talk to the adults in your life to learn what it is that they actually do and whether or not they like it. The careers you will encounter in the future may not even exist yet. Test out different classes and academic departments. If all else fails, I am sure your grandfather (former Ivy League Career Services Director) can offer some career advice for you.
Learn those ABC’s. After you learn the ABC song and to form letters on paper, learn to write, and to write well. Learn to write from the heart, to write your opinions, to write critiques, write fiction, and write poetry. I don’t care whether you are writing letters, or emails or texts (or whatever new form of communication exists by the time you can actually read this). Just write –hopefully in full sentences not just emoticons- as much as possible. Humor us and try actually using a pen and paper once in a while too. Ok, forgive me for throwing this in there, but someday you will have to write college essays that are both powerful and persuasive, so learning to write personal pieces from an early age can be a great advantage. Find your own story to tell.
Learn a second language. Perhaps we are a bit biased on this one as your dad is the director of a Spanish language school, but we think it is important that you learn another language besides English. There are so many reasons for learning a second language. You probably won’t care as much at the start of your life about reasons like delaying Alzheimer’s but how about opening doors in the future world employment market? Increasing your global understanding? Appreciating international music, art, and film? Making travel more enjoyable? Choose whatever reason works for you.
Challenge yourself. At the beginning, we know these challenges will take the form of your first steps or first word or even just challenging yourself to sleep through the night (fingers crossed!). Down the road we hope you challenge yourself academically. Take the tough courses. Take a class with the “hard” teacher. Take risks and have adventures. Travel. Consider a gap year if you aren’t ready to head directly from high school to college or take advantage of a study abroad program where you can step outside your comfort zone.
Choose a school for the right reasons. As many parents often do, we are likely to not-so-subtly try and influence you from day one by dressing you up in a college themed onesie exclaiming that attending a “CU” for college would be perfect (my alma mater Colgate University or your dad’s University of Colorado Boulder work just fine). Truly though, the choice is absolutely yours. I will happily escort you on college tours in the future- and promise not to embarrass you by rolling my eyes every time the tour guide yet again mentions a blue safety light- and expose you to a wide variety of options. We will carefully think through all your criteria for your college, your goals, values, and find a place that is a great fit for you. In fact, maybe we will just start testing these criteria out with preschools (What is their food like? Recreation facilities? Staff to child ratio? ) See? So many important lessons we can think about and test out early on!
Above all else, know that your family is already proud of you. We will support you and love you every step of the way on this educational journey. Can’t wait to meet you.
Your Mom (and future personal college consultant)
During the National Association of College Admission Counseling Conference earlier this fall, I attended a session titled "College Counseling for Jewish Students & Families." There were some great takeaways from this session and hope you find them helpful as well as you celebrate the final nights of the holiday.
First, if you are a Jewish student or parent starting your college search, or in the thick of it, it is worth considering how important Jewish life is to you and how active a role you want take in Jewish life while going to college.
Here are some introductory questions you might want to ask yourself:
Second, you may want to think about the food and the role that plays in your life. For example:
Lastly, you may want to think about life inside and outside the classroom. For example:
The presenters at the session also identified some "up and coming" schools for Jewish life. Their list included: U of Richmond, Elon, Virginia Commonwealth, Northeastern University, and College of Charleston. In addition some "hot schools" on their list for Jewish students included: Bradley University, Franklin & Marshall University, Muhlenberg, Colgate University, Ithaca College, Dickinson College, Lehigh University, Trinity University and Michigan State University.
For more resources on Jewish life in college here are some helpful websites to check out.
P.S. Are you an admissions counselor? Here's a tip for you. You might want to be ready for questions during your recruitment travel about Jewish life, especially if you are visiting a Jewish high school!
Recently, I have been asked by a lot of families for clarification on the different types of admission deadlines. With so many different options to choose from (and so many deadlines coming up quickly!) it can be confusing. Here is a brief summary of the various admissions deadlines.
Early Decision: This is an early college application process in which students complete their application for submission in November. In most cases, students will receive an admissions decision in December or before the new year. A student may only apply to one college for early decision as it is a binding decision. He or she may apply to other colleges for regular admission but if accepted to the early decision school he or she must withdraw all other college applications. As well, if admitted, a student must attend the school. A student should not apply early unless he or she is absolutely sure that this is the best fit college for them and is their top choice. Families should be aware that a student who is accepted early decision may miss out on comparing financial packages from different colleges.
Early Action: Like early decision, this is an application process that takes place early in the process and applications are typically submitted in November (with a few exceptions). Most students will receive a decision back from the colleges either in December, January or February. The benefits to early action are that it is not a binding decision (they can apply to other colleges) and although the student will hear earlier about a decision they still have until May 1 to confirm their enrollment. Even if a student is accepted early action to a specific school they can still make the decision to attend another college and compare financial offers.
Regular Decision: Students who apply regular decision may apply to as many colleges as they like. Most deadlines for regular decision are in early January with decisions sent out in late March and early April. Students who apply regular decision have until May 1 to either accept or decline the offers from the colleges. A student is only permitted to submit a matriculation (or enrollment deposit) to one of the institutions to which they have been admitted.
Single Choice (or Restrictive) Early Action: This is a non binding application option for students who are confident that the college they have selected is their first choice. Students agree not to apply to any other private colleges/universities under another early action, restrictive or early decision program. However, applicants may apply to other colleges and universities through the regular decision process. As well, a student may apply to public colleges or universities with a non-binding early application option or non-binding rolling admissions process. Students will typically hear back from single choice early action schools in mid-late December.
While these are the nuts and bolts of the different types of decisions, it is always important to check and confirm the policies for the colleges that you are applying to and to check their specific deadlines as they do vary.
Good luck making your decision!
A recent article in Inside Higher Education explains how some colleges are using the FAFSA against students and families. Make sure this doesn't happen to you when you file your financial aid forms this winter!
Essentially, the article suggests that when students list the colleges they are thinking of attending on the FAFSA, the U.S. Department of Education then shares all of the information on the FAFSA with the colleges on the list. Some colleges have discovered that the order in which students list the institutions corresponds to students' preferred colleges. So, some colleges are using this so called "FAFSA position" when considering the student's application for admission.
This is very concerning because not only could this impact admission decisions for students but some college officials may actually offer smaller aid packages to those who list their school high on the list, assuming that the students are more likely to pay whatever it may take to attend his or her top choice college.
This is an article that is definitely worth a glance now and maybe again as a reminder closer to when you file the FAFSA in a few months.
Deciding What Questions to Ask at a College Fair? Some Tips for Rephrasing Common College Fair Questions.
In recent posts we have discussed upcoming college fairs and what to do before, during, and after the fairs.
Now, let's talk about what kinds of questions to ask at college fairs.
While working in admissions at the University of Colorado Boulder I stood behind many college fair tables and talked to prospective across the country - from California to New England. Most recently, I have assisted my alma mater Colgate University as an alumni admissions representative at college fairs in Colorado. I have learned pretty quickly through experience that the more specific and personal a student is with their questions, the more information they will actually receive.
Remember, college fair conversations are brief and there is limited time to interact with the admissions counselors. This is an opportunity for you to learn something new about the college, confirm something you already heard, or find out why you might be a good fit for them and them for you. In addition, remember that these admissions counselors will be talking to a large number of students at the fair and it helps everyone if you head to the table prepared.
A few general tips:
Ways to rephrase common college fair questions:
Get the idea? Great! Try it out at your next college fair.
Our recent post on upcoming college fairs mentioned that a number of upcoming college fairs are coming up quickly this fall. Hopefully you have already marked your calendar for one of these dates and have gotten yourself registered to attend. If you are planning to attend a college fair, here are a few tips for what to do before, during and after you are at the fair.
What to do before the college fair:
1. Make sure you are registered for the fair (if that is an option). Registration (particularly for the large national fairs) will provide you with a barcode that you can print out and bring with you on the day of the fair. The colleges will then scan your bar code and collect your information so you don't have to fill out one contact card after another.
2. Look at the list of colleges attending the fair. Many of the college fairs have websites where you can see a list of the colleges attending. Make a plan for which colleges you want to talk with so you can make sure that you don't miss any.
3. Do your research before you go. Doing some research on the colleges you will be talking to at the fair, particularly the ones you are most interested in, will help you have a stronger conversation and be able to ask better questions.
4. Dress appropriately. No one is saying that you need get all dressed up for the college fair, college admission counselors know that you are students, but you should try to avoid things like wearing inappropriate slogans or showing too much skin.
What to do during the college fair:
1. Introduce yourself. When you walk up to a college's table take a moment to introduce yourself. The fair will likely be busy, so don't expect that the admissions counselor will necessarily remember your name, but it is polite to shake their hand and introduce yourself. Feel free to tell them your name, where you go to high school, and some of your interests.
2. Ask questions. One of the first things the colleges will ask you is whether or not you have any questions for them. Rather than staring like a deer in headlights, ask them a couple questions (see tomorrow's post for ideas) and strike up a conversation.
3. Be patient. College fairs can be busy and there will likely be a lot of lines to wait in talk to the colleges. Be prepared to wait patiently for your turn. As well, when you get to the front be respectful of the admission counselor's time particularly if a lot of students are waiting behind you.
4. Take their business card. Most college reps will have their business cards on the table with their email and phone number. Take this with you so you can follow up on in the process.
What to do after the college fair:
1. Follow up. Use that business card you picked up from the table and make a connection with the admissions counselor. If you have follow up questions about the school or the application process you now have a contact in the office to email or call.
2. Look through the materials you picked up. All too often the college brochures that students pick up end up crushed in lockers, smushed in back packs, or thrown in the recycling bin. Colleges put a lot of time and thought into developing these for students so take some time to at least glance through them.
3. Check for opportunities to visit campus. Now that you have interacted with the colleges in this informal setting, a next step may be to plan a campus visit. Take a look at your calendar and pick some dates that you and your family can schedule visits.
4. Continue your research. Perhaps the admissions counselor told you about their school's amazing anthropology program or their study abroad program in Chile. Whatever it might be, take some time to look a little deeper and get a better understanding of whether or not it might be a good fit for you.
Walking out the door this past weekend, I was struck by the cool breeze that greeted me. It is hard to believe how quickly September has flown by and that fall is in the air. With October upon us tomorrow I thought it would be helpful to send along a few reminders for high school seniors regarding their college admissions process. It is easy for students to get caught up filling out the applications themselves and sometimes forget about the other pieces needed to complete their applications.
Here you go!
1. Put in your transcript request early. Make sure you know your school's policy for requesting transcripts to be sent to the colleges. Sometimes, it can take a while for transcripts to be processed and sent. In fact, many high schools want transcript requests done a month in advance. This means that If you are applying to colleges with early deadlines, such as November, you want to make sure those requests are placed in the next week to allow your transcript plenty of time to be delivered. If you don't know the transcript request policy for your school, check in with your high school counselor.
2. Check in on your letters of recommendation. I typically encourage the students that I work with to talk to their teachers who they want to have write the letter of recommendation during the spring of their junior year. While some teachers work on these letters over the summer, some wait until they are back to school. I suggest that you check in with your teachers to see how your letters are coming, whether or not they need additional information from you, and to and make sure they are aware of how to submit the letters and what your deadlines are when you need the letters.
3 Create a list of all of your deadlines. Deadlines can sneak up on you quickly during your senior year. Make sure you take the time to put all of these dates and deadlines for interviews, applications, college visits, college fairs, and other meetings in your calendar and make sure to stick to them (setting a reminder always helps!).
4. Update your activities and resume. Many of your college applications (and college interviewers) will ask about your involvement in activities and what you did over the summer. Double check to make sure that you have all of your most up to date activities, honors, and positions on your resume or activities list.
5. Get ready for your last round of standardized tests or send your scores if done with test taking. If you are retaking the SAT, ACT or Subject tests this fall make sure that you are registered in advance and putting in some time preparing. Practice tests are a great way to familiarize yourself with the tests! All done with standardized tests? Remember, you need to send the official scores through College Board or ACT to your colleges. Again, make sure you are allowing enough time for them to be sent and received.
6. Schedule interviews. September, October and November are heavy recruitment months for college admissions officers and many will be traveling to your community. If you are planning to interview while these admissions officers are in your neck of the woods you should contact them early as their schedules fill up quickly.
7. Connect with your colleges. As I said above, the fall is a busy time for college admissions officers. Not only are they conducting interviews across the country but they may be visiting your high school or attending a college fair in the area. This is a great opportunity to connect with the college, learn more about them, and ask any additional questions you might have for them before you send off your application.
It's a rainy day here in Boulder, Colorado. The streets are flooding and schools are cancelled. We hope that everyone is staying safe, warm, and dry. That being said, here is some light reading while you are stuck inside today.
Each year, just in time for the start of the new school year, Beloit comes out with their annual Mindset List. The list is intended to give a glimpse into this year's generation of incoming college students. The list is a great way for college administrators and professors to have a sense of who will be joining them on campus in the fall. It is also a great reminder to college counselors like myself of who we are interacting with on a daily basis!
The list for the Class of 2017 was released recently and you can check it out here.
Some of my favorites from the list include:
- Gaga has never been baby talk.
- With GPS, they have never needed directions to get someplace, just an address.
- They have never really needed to go to their friend’s house so they could study together.
- Their parents’ car CD player is soooooo ancient and embarrassing.
- Their parents have always bemoaned the passing of precocious little Calvin and sarcastic stuffy Hobbes.
Have fun reading the rest of the Mindset List!
Starting your Common Application is exciting! Perhaps you were one of the many anxious students that logged on right on August 1 at the launch date for the new version of the Common Application, CA4.
Now, don't get me wrong, I am a big proponent of doing things early to reduce stress later on in the admissions process. I know that seniors have a busy schedule once they get back to school. That being said, I do encourage my students to take their time filling out the Common Application. It is not a race and it is still somewhat early in the process. Personally, I think it is more important that the application be filled out correctly, and thoroughly, than to get it in months before the deadline.
So, here are a few tips as you start filling out your Common Application for this year's application cycle:
1. Take your time. As I said above, it is not a race. Make sure you are filling in all of your information correctly. Sometimes, when students rush they make silly mistakes. Make sure you are reading each page in its entirety and filling out each piece of information carefully. Even minor errors can become a pain for you to fix later on in the process.
2. Read instructions and suggested tips. The Common Application has done an excellent job with their revisions of the application in terms of offering help and assistance to general questions. They have added in a section on the right side of each page that offers helpful suggestions and guidance as you fill out your information. If you have a question, consult these first, you might just find your answer.
3. Don't hit submit until you have had someone double check your work. College applications are a huge step for high school students as they establish their independence. Remember though, it is okay to ask for help. Find someone you trust (parent, college counselor, etc) to look through your application before you hit the "submit" button. Two sets of eyes (or three or four...) are always better than one and may just catch something you hadn't seen before.
4. Think through your options. While some of the sections are quite easy and quick to fill out (such as your profile and family information), some of the sections require a bit more thought and planning. For example, I encourage students to spend time thinking through the activities section before just filling it out. This section provides a big opportunity to share substantial information with the college about yourself. You want to make sure that you are not missing any activities, that you are providing accurate and informative descriptions, and that you clearly explain your role. You will also want to think through your options about reporting test scores. If you are applying to a test-optional college you may want to consider whether or not it makes sense for you to present your scores in the Common Application.
5. Confirm the educational information for your school. One section that can be confusing for students is the educational information. Some high schools rank their students and some don't. Some schools weight the GPA and some don't. Many schools are on different grading scales. Take the time to consult your transcript to determine your school's case and make sure to ask questions if you are unsure of what to put down in this section.
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